Supporting Women with anxiety, Mother’s with their invisible load, and Couples preparing for parenthood
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Individual Therapy
Is a collaborative experience between a licensed mental health professional and an individual client.
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Couples & Family Therapy
Often I work with young couples preparing to embark on the journey of parenthood. We focus on addressing anxiety, fear, and preparing for the transition to family life. We identify communication patterns, look at family of origin roots, attachment styles, and build emotional regulation skills to strengthen the relationship.
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Mother's Group
Fridays at 10am-11am IN-PERSON. Begins September 20th (eight sessions). A small process focused group of 4-6 mother’s. In an unhurried style, we will unpack ideals and beliefs of motherhood, slow down anxious thoughts, practice compassionate inner self-talk, and learn ways to help balance the invisible “mother load”. Weekly fee is $55. Call (805) 617-3816 to register.
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Welcome, I’m Mary
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#119679) in Santa Barbara, CA. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology with emphasis in Marriage Family Therapy, Professional Clinical Counseling and Depth Psychotherapy from Pacifica Graduate Institute. During my clinical training I worked with children, teens, adults, elders, couples, families, and groups. While have experience working with a range of different clients across the developmental lifespan, the heart of my work focuses on helping women to access and grow their most authentic version of themself as well as couples preparing for parenthood.
Treatment Issues
Life Transitions
Stress & Anxiety
Self-esteem
Family Member Conflict
Imposter Syndrome
Depression
Parenting
Couples Conflicts
Perfectionism
Isolation & Loneliness
Preparing for parenthood
Addiction
My Specialties
I specialize in helping women in their 20’s-40’s who struggle with: anxiety, depression, loneliness, imposter syndrome/persistent feeling of not-good-enough, low self-esteem, and perfectionism. Together we will sift through your thought process, look at how it shows up in your relationships, and survey your emotional landscape. I am drawn to help clarify what is being said from what desires to be said. By connecting with what you yearn for in life, we work together to bring more calm, inner centeredness, a feeling of wholeness, and authentic living.
My Approach
Person-centered is at the heart of all my relationships with clients. This acknowledges within the relationship that YOU (the client) know himself/herself/themselves best. Something unique about my approach is that I am grounded in Attachment Theory and Depth Psychology. You will experience being deeply listened to while we investigate what’s underneath your symptoms. We might incorporate dreams, poetry, music, art, body wisdom, unconscious patterns, or images like the divine feminine.
Putting together a treatment approach is somewhat like blending together the ingredients for a person’s favorite meal. I take into consideration a person’s background, family of origin, culture, as well as current presenting concerns. As human beings we are highly complex, unique individuals with personal goals, desires, and imaginings, and each treatment approach must reflect that same individuality. The majority of my practice focuses on connecting you with your inner voice. We will address how you speak with yourself, what you value, what you imagine your life to look like, and the story you tell yourself about who you are?
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